repeat after me everyone: respecting the basic human dignity of oppressed people is more important than having a philosophical discussion about how anger is supposedly the same thing as hatred and how much better the world would be if we were all just nice to each other!!!!!!
because “don’t fight hate with hate” only means so much when you shout it in the faces of the oppressed, but barely whisper it in the direction of the oppressors
"don’t fight hate with hate"
Don’t fight my fear and ignorance-based attempts to exploit you for what I think you’re worth to me and crush everything else about you that threatens me by pointing out what an asshole I’m being.
Or for those with internalized oppression:
Please don’t jeopardize my efforts to evade injury and ingratiate myself with our abusers by pointing out what an asshole they’ve been.